So, this is what we call an appeal to authority fallacy argument. The engineers are not designing the vehicle to last forever, they're designing it to get out of the factory warranty period without major issue and cost to the manufacturer.
Secondly, look up the viscosity of 0W-20 and even just a 5W-30. 0W-20 is thicker cold than the 5W-30 is at operating temperature ((to the multitude of 4-6x as thick) (most 0W-20's run in the 50s-60s when cold and most 5W-30's run 9-12s at 100*C operating temp)). If, as you so wrongly claim, that just because a 5W-30 oil was thicker, it would automatically cause AFM lifter issues, the engine would not be able to run when cold or in cold temperatures with a 0W-20 oil. So this completely negates your argument that you have to use 0W-20 or else AFM lifter issues will happen, just based upon viscosity. Now, with that said, there is diminishing returns and eventually you would find a fluid with a thick viscosity that it would cause issues but that simply won't happen with a 5W-30 or even a xW-40 oil.
Your 18 runs like a swiss watch just like someone elses '14-current would run like a swiss watch with 5W-30 or xW-40 oil because they're simply not thick enough to cause issues. Your anecdotal sample size of 1 does nothing in the grand scheme of all things relating to statistics and stastistical analysis of a gigantic group.
In conclusion, I don't really want to call you out being wrong to your face in front of the entire forum but what you're saying is completely and utterly incorrect.